Three aspects of a person of the opposite sex must be taken into consideration when attempting to create a relationship. The first is availability. I don't care what they look like or what qualities you posses; if they are married you will not get a date. This is a particular problem due to the young age at which couples get married at BYU-I. A simple glance at the left hand can usually solve this problem. This technique is known as the “Ring Check”.
The second hurtle to overcome is conversation. The important thing to remember is that if you are in the same class, or if you only go to the same college you have many things in common. The best thing to do is to find out what that person enjoys and then offer the activity rather than your company. One example would be to talk about movies that are going to be released soon. Then when interest is shown in one offer to go together.
Our final hurtle is deciding what to do, or the plan. In the above example notice a specific activity is mentioned. When you have a plan not only is it easier to ask, because the rejection would be directed toward the activity and not your self, but it will also give your partner a sense of stability. If you ask someone to go hike table rock they will be able to prepare for the occasion rather than worry about what you are like.
When used properly these three steps will work effectively on nearly any person for a first date.
Remember practice makes perfect, so the more people you ask the more comfortable it will become.
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